One of my high school best friends' mother passed away this morning. I remember growing up trying to hook her mom and my dad up. I am sitting here at work bawling my eyes out. I know that mom is not in pain anymore and lets face it...mom won her fight with cancer. I know my friend and her mother had their differences all of their life but I know friend was with her mom when she made the transition.
Hugs to friend and her family. RIP Mom! You will be missed by many.
Friday, May 30, 2008
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Expecting
I wasn't trying to hold out on ya'll. We found out Thursday morning before we went up north this weekend.
When we found out I was pregnant with Chicky, the shit hit the fan with PIA. She went on a rampage. She tried to fight me and everything. She wanted Miss M to be Superdaddy's last child. According to her, he was only meant to have 3 children. She thinks it is her business to try to manage his life. Hell it quit being her business Xmas morning when she packed his shit in trash bags back in 2002. To this day, she tries to be all up in our business "for her children's sake".
More drama to follow...GUARANTEED!
When we found out I was pregnant with Chicky, the shit hit the fan with PIA. She went on a rampage. She tried to fight me and everything. She wanted Miss M to be Superdaddy's last child. According to her, he was only meant to have 3 children. She thinks it is her business to try to manage his life. Hell it quit being her business Xmas morning when she packed his shit in trash bags back in 2002. To this day, she tries to be all up in our business "for her children's sake".
More drama to follow...GUARANTEED!
Venting
I firmly believe misery loves company. PIA is very jealous of us. We have more than she does. Her stuff is nicer (house, car etc.) but we have "more". She does not think I can take care of her children the way she can. Like I am not capable of being a mother. Hell her kids already have a mother they sure do not need another one. I think part of it is I am not like her. I will never be like her. I treat our children like they all belong to me. They are treated equally with gifts, love, punishments etc.
One of my biggest pet peeves is simply LYING! I have lied in the past to my folks when I was growing up. The problem with lying is trying to keep the lies straight. She is a compulsive liar. She lies so much, she actually believes what she is saying is the truth. She lies to the kids, Superdaddy; everyone. The girls are becoming chronic liars as well. Example, before taking the kids home Monday, I was doing the clean clothes check (Lord knows if they went home with dirty clothes, we would have protective services at our home). Miss G let me see your undies; CHECK, socks; CHECK. Miss M let me see your undies; CHECK, socks; they are clean. No let me see them, they are clean I promise. No let me see them. SHE WASN'T WEARING ANY!! I took her to Superdaddy who asked her why she lied. She didn't. She was telling the truth. I told her if she was going to lie she was going to have to stay at her moms house and lie there because at our house lying was not acceptable. Sheesh. What is a Step-mom to do?
I think part of the reason PIA has a problem with me is that I am not like her. I do not lie or cheat. I do not blame my problems on anyone else. When I don't like how something is going or not going, I do something to fix it instead of blaming everyone else. I have integrity, honor and morals. If that makes me a horrible person than so be it.
The shit will hit the fan in the near future when she finds out we are expecting again. Good Lord I think I may need an umbrella when it comes raining down.
One of my biggest pet peeves is simply LYING! I have lied in the past to my folks when I was growing up. The problem with lying is trying to keep the lies straight. She is a compulsive liar. She lies so much, she actually believes what she is saying is the truth. She lies to the kids, Superdaddy; everyone. The girls are becoming chronic liars as well. Example, before taking the kids home Monday, I was doing the clean clothes check (Lord knows if they went home with dirty clothes, we would have protective services at our home). Miss G let me see your undies; CHECK, socks; CHECK. Miss M let me see your undies; CHECK, socks; they are clean. No let me see them, they are clean I promise. No let me see them. SHE WASN'T WEARING ANY!! I took her to Superdaddy who asked her why she lied. She didn't. She was telling the truth. I told her if she was going to lie she was going to have to stay at her moms house and lie there because at our house lying was not acceptable. Sheesh. What is a Step-mom to do?
I think part of the reason PIA has a problem with me is that I am not like her. I do not lie or cheat. I do not blame my problems on anyone else. When I don't like how something is going or not going, I do something to fix it instead of blaming everyone else. I have integrity, honor and morals. If that makes me a horrible person than so be it.
The shit will hit the fan in the near future when she finds out we are expecting again. Good Lord I think I may need an umbrella when it comes raining down.
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Does it ever get easier?
I just don't get it. This weekend was wonderful. Very little aggravation and conflict. When we got home, I was so frustrated with things. When Superdaddy took the girls home, PIA had a huge attitude about missing a spring jacket. I found the jacket this morning. I was nice enough to bring it by her house and she was pissy about it. Then called Superdaddy and told him I was rude and nasty to her. I was late to work and she couldn't even say thank you. I guess one important lesson is this: You need to give respect in order to receive respect. Lets face it that is something she will never get because she does not give it. I think personally she needs to find fault with Superdaddy and I so she can feel better about herself for some reason. Things will get worse coming up shortly guaranteed. I cannot wait for the day when the girls are old enough that we don't have to deal with her as much. It would be a day too soon.
I will share pictures of our camping excursion tomorrow. I forgot the camera at home.
I will share pictures of our camping excursion tomorrow. I forgot the camera at home.
Monday, May 19, 2008
Busted weekend
So after my little temper tantrum about the girls, they didn't come after all. My weekend was almost a bust. Saturday, I took my cousin and his kid to get a free car seat because the law is changing in July. A quick trip turned into almost 4 hours of 4 children in the vehicle sitting. Believe it or not, they were good as gold. I was impressed. After that, I took down the bunk beds that cousin was taking home for his kid. It rained of course and I had to drive it to his digs to avoid ruining the wood.
Sunday I took the girls to the zoo. That was almost a bust as well. I took a friend of my mom's to the zoo. She is a senior citizen with 2 adult retarded children. All they wanted to do was ride the train. We rode the train to the back of the zoo, went to see the kangaroo's and polar bears and took the train back to the front and left. Her oldest was having a melt down at the polar bear exhibit. Not pretty. Did get 2 rose bushes dug up yesterday before I threw in the towel and called it quits for the night. Maybe today I can try to get another bush out.
Ya know what really sucks is doing the right thing and getting kicked in the teeth for it. My cousin and his son moved out of my aunts home last week. His dad (my uncle) was on top of him hitting him and my cousin's son walked into the room. My cousin decided to pack his stuff and leave. His parents let him take some things and made him leave other things. Superdaddy and him go hunting and hanging out and stuff. Since my aunt found out we knew what happened she has not spoken to me at all. Messed up thing is this...today I forgot my cell phone at home. Miss J missed the bus. She called freaking out when I finally got to work. She asked my aunt to get a hold of me to tell me she missed the bus and I didn't have my phone...I still have not heard from my aunt. My mom asked her to get in touch with me about Miss J as well.
Now tell me if family is not supposed to help family who is? Personally, I would be pissed off at my family for not helping some other family member out. Give me a break.
Sunday I took the girls to the zoo. That was almost a bust as well. I took a friend of my mom's to the zoo. She is a senior citizen with 2 adult retarded children. All they wanted to do was ride the train. We rode the train to the back of the zoo, went to see the kangaroo's and polar bears and took the train back to the front and left. Her oldest was having a melt down at the polar bear exhibit. Not pretty. Did get 2 rose bushes dug up yesterday before I threw in the towel and called it quits for the night. Maybe today I can try to get another bush out.
Ya know what really sucks is doing the right thing and getting kicked in the teeth for it. My cousin and his son moved out of my aunts home last week. His dad (my uncle) was on top of him hitting him and my cousin's son walked into the room. My cousin decided to pack his stuff and leave. His parents let him take some things and made him leave other things. Superdaddy and him go hunting and hanging out and stuff. Since my aunt found out we knew what happened she has not spoken to me at all. Messed up thing is this...today I forgot my cell phone at home. Miss J missed the bus. She called freaking out when I finally got to work. She asked my aunt to get a hold of me to tell me she missed the bus and I didn't have my phone...I still have not heard from my aunt. My mom asked her to get in touch with me about Miss J as well.
Now tell me if family is not supposed to help family who is? Personally, I would be pissed off at my family for not helping some other family member out. Give me a break.
Friday, May 16, 2008
Oooppss!
Looks like Superdaddy pissed her off real good this time when he told her he was going to Scout camp with Bubba. Either that or she found my blog.
Will have a faboulous weekend either way.
Will have a faboulous weekend either way.
The story of my life!
Of course. This is the story of my life.
Superdaddy and Bubba are going to Boy Scout camp this weekend, I have a ton of stuff to get done around the house, laundry, yard work, packing for camp next weekend, shopping for jeans for the girls at a second hand store. Guess what? Bet ya already guessed. PIA has decided our tax money and stimulation check was enough money to buy their love temporarily and let them come over this weekend. I have missed them girls so much, but why do they have to come over when I have like 48 hours worth of shit to do crammed into 24 hours a day????? Good thing what I had planned to do didn't actually cost money to do (except for the shopping for jeans) and been budgeted for. Told ya she could mess up a wet dream. The kicker is...it is not our weekend!!!
Perhaps I can con them into helping with the yard work instead of killing each other in the back yard over bubbles or bicycles? Yeah right. Perhaps they will get their bedroom cleaned up? Hell a mother/step-mother can dream can't she?
Superdaddy still does not know what this week holds for him and work. Part of me wished he delivered commodities (food and household products) so I knew he would always have work, but then again, that would leave him home less and driving coast to coast instead of regionally.
Superdaddy and Bubba are going to Boy Scout camp this weekend, I have a ton of stuff to get done around the house, laundry, yard work, packing for camp next weekend, shopping for jeans for the girls at a second hand store. Guess what? Bet ya already guessed. PIA has decided our tax money and stimulation check was enough money to buy their love temporarily and let them come over this weekend. I have missed them girls so much, but why do they have to come over when I have like 48 hours worth of shit to do crammed into 24 hours a day????? Good thing what I had planned to do didn't actually cost money to do (except for the shopping for jeans) and been budgeted for. Told ya she could mess up a wet dream. The kicker is...it is not our weekend!!!
Perhaps I can con them into helping with the yard work instead of killing each other in the back yard over bubbles or bicycles? Yeah right. Perhaps they will get their bedroom cleaned up? Hell a mother/step-mother can dream can't she?
Superdaddy still does not know what this week holds for him and work. Part of me wished he delivered commodities (food and household products) so I knew he would always have work, but then again, that would leave him home less and driving coast to coast instead of regionally.
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Going's on
The "bone" yard still needs some work. Quite a bit of work actually. Yesterday was not a good day to do yard work. It poured all day. In fact, I went to scout camp with Miss J's school yesterday in the rain. I almost got "lunch time detention" yesterday for playing in the mud puddles. Perhaps this weekend I will be able to do some more yard work. I need a long weekend vacation.
Superdaddy's run got cancelled this week again. Sigh. I cannot wait for all of the labor disputes to end so Superdaddy can get a full paycheck again. The money tree in our yard still has not sprouted despite all of the rain. Must be poor soil or something.
Superdaddy's run got cancelled this week again. Sigh. I cannot wait for all of the labor disputes to end so Superdaddy can get a full paycheck again. The money tree in our yard still has not sprouted despite all of the rain. Must be poor soil or something.
Tuesday, May 13, 2008
Mothers Day
Hope everyone had a wonderful mother's day. This was the first year on mother's day I haven't had the step-kids around; ironically enough. It was kinda quiet around our house. We did house work because it was pouring outside all day.
Today is beautiful outside today. Probably going to try to do yard work today. In our neighborhood they have a court that will give you tickets and such if your grass is higher than 6 inches and you have "debris" in your yard. We have a "bone" yard of atv parts laying around. I am gonna try to organize it and get the grass cut today. Perhaps I will succeed.
Today is beautiful outside today. Probably going to try to do yard work today. In our neighborhood they have a court that will give you tickets and such if your grass is higher than 6 inches and you have "debris" in your yard. We have a "bone" yard of atv parts laying around. I am gonna try to organize it and get the grass cut today. Perhaps I will succeed.
Friday, May 09, 2008
Wrong profession!!
How Much Is Mom Worth? $117,000, Site Says
Working At Home Would Often Add Overtime Pay
POSTED: 10:51 am EDT May 9, 2008
If a stay-at-home mom could be financially compensated, she'd bring home nearly $117,000 a year.
That's according to an annual pre-Mother's Day study released by Salary.com, which studies workplace compensation.
For the past eight years, Salary.com has calculated mothers' market value by studying pay for tasks such as child care and housekeeping.
This year's stay-at-home mom figure is $116,805 per year, while the working mom figure is $68,405. Both are down from last year because of a change in study methodology.
The range of at-home value for a working mother varies from $36,680 to $104,767, according to the site.
The numbers were based on a survey of moms who averaged a 94-hour workweek. If moms were in the workplace, they'd be spending more than half their working hours on overtime.
Salary.com also provides a tool that allows you to calculate the value of the mother in your life and even cut a pretend check for that amount.
Distributed by Internet
This is precisely why PIA can sit on her butt and I have to work. I make less than the "working" mom figure. Like by 1/3!!! I think I should quit my job and start staying at home and collecting.
Happy mothers day to anyone who is a mother, step-mother, grandmother, mother in waiting, mother of an angel. Heck HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE!!
Working At Home Would Often Add Overtime Pay
POSTED: 10:51 am EDT May 9, 2008
If a stay-at-home mom could be financially compensated, she'd bring home nearly $117,000 a year.
That's according to an annual pre-Mother's Day study released by Salary.com, which studies workplace compensation.
For the past eight years, Salary.com has calculated mothers' market value by studying pay for tasks such as child care and housekeeping.
This year's stay-at-home mom figure is $116,805 per year, while the working mom figure is $68,405. Both are down from last year because of a change in study methodology.
The range of at-home value for a working mother varies from $36,680 to $104,767, according to the site.
The numbers were based on a survey of moms who averaged a 94-hour workweek. If moms were in the workplace, they'd be spending more than half their working hours on overtime.
Salary.com also provides a tool that allows you to calculate the value of the mother in your life and even cut a pretend check for that amount.
Distributed by Internet
This is precisely why PIA can sit on her butt and I have to work. I make less than the "working" mom figure. Like by 1/3!!! I think I should quit my job and start staying at home and collecting.
Happy mothers day to anyone who is a mother, step-mother, grandmother, mother in waiting, mother of an angel. Heck HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY EVERYONE!!
Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Here we go...
He is home YEAH!
Paycheck Boo! The strike happening has brought him home early. That means half a paycheck.
Maybe today he will fix the light switches or the light fixtures. I have a "honey do" list that is almost 12 inches long.
Paycheck Boo! The strike happening has brought him home early. That means half a paycheck.
Maybe today he will fix the light switches or the light fixtures. I have a "honey do" list that is almost 12 inches long.
Monday, May 05, 2008
Another strike :(
His run is affected yet again by striking workers. Well it is not officially affected yet, it will be in the near future. The plant he delivers for walked out today apparently.
I think one of the hardest things I am having to cope with currently is not enough time. Superdaddy is home on the weekends most weekends and well I have to share him with the kids and errands and such. It sucks. This weekend he had to run up north Friday and come home Saturday evening. My Saturday evening was spent a the skating rink with my girl scout troop. We were like breezes passing in the night. Sunday we had house chores and outdoor chores to do and then just like that he was gone again.
I hate the fact that there are things that need to be done around the house and he is not around to help out. Like the hall light switch needs to be replaced, the bedroom light fixtures need to be replaced, the kitchen ceiling fan, the screen door. Sheesh I guess it sounds like our home is falling apart. I guess I should enroll in the Home depo do it "herself" classes.
I have spent quite a lot of time on the subject of PIA lately. Sorry you guys have heard so much about her. I cannot believe I have allowed her to bring out a whole wrath of anger in myself. We have not seen the girls since March when I took the girl scouts to camp. It has been 4 weeks since I seen them, 6 weeks since Superdaddy seen them. I have a feeling since his mother is talking to PIA again, the visits will get spaced further and further apart until the courts have to step in again. Maybe since she got the tax refund, she will have enough money to buy their love for a few weeks and she will lay off.
Here is to a better week.
I think one of the hardest things I am having to cope with currently is not enough time. Superdaddy is home on the weekends most weekends and well I have to share him with the kids and errands and such. It sucks. This weekend he had to run up north Friday and come home Saturday evening. My Saturday evening was spent a the skating rink with my girl scout troop. We were like breezes passing in the night. Sunday we had house chores and outdoor chores to do and then just like that he was gone again.
I hate the fact that there are things that need to be done around the house and he is not around to help out. Like the hall light switch needs to be replaced, the bedroom light fixtures need to be replaced, the kitchen ceiling fan, the screen door. Sheesh I guess it sounds like our home is falling apart. I guess I should enroll in the Home depo do it "herself" classes.
I have spent quite a lot of time on the subject of PIA lately. Sorry you guys have heard so much about her. I cannot believe I have allowed her to bring out a whole wrath of anger in myself. We have not seen the girls since March when I took the girl scouts to camp. It has been 4 weeks since I seen them, 6 weeks since Superdaddy seen them. I have a feeling since his mother is talking to PIA again, the visits will get spaced further and further apart until the courts have to step in again. Maybe since she got the tax refund, she will have enough money to buy their love for a few weeks and she will lay off.
Here is to a better week.
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