The Story of S

S is my husband's oldest. When mom and dad were together, mom had an anger problem. She pulled a knife on Superdaddy when S was only 18 months old. Superdaddy called the police and mom left before the police arrived. The cops advised Superdaddy to go elsewhere for the night because if things go awry again, they both would be arrested. He took S and went to his mom's house down the street. They stayed there for a few weeks. S had to go to the doctor for her well baby check they had welfare insurance for her. MIL had a better idea. She could get BCBS on S if they gave MIL guardianship of her. MIL apporached mom and she signed the paperwork to give MIL limited guardianship. Superdaddy thought if it is just temporary he would follow suit. Shortly after, her mom came back into the picture and tried to make things work out to keep the family together. She got violent again and his mom called the cops. The police advised them both to leave and him to stay elsewhere again. When he went to take S with him, MIL pulled the "I HAVE GUARDIANSHIP" card and he couldn't leave with her.

He has just recently found out, he is not on S's birth certificate as her mother's ex-husband is listed. The corrected birth certificate was never made corrected. Technically, Miss S is not related to him. She will be 13 in August. That is the age in our state when the judge will listen to her. The problem we will run into is going to be a douzy. She has basically no rules at MIL's home. At our home, we have rules.

The other day when I was talking with S, she was telling me about failing math. She keeps getting suspended she said for not dressing in gym and not doing her homework. I asked her if she wanted to repeat the 8th grade and her response was "Grandma will not let that happen. She knows the teachers hate me." HUH? I asked her "well if you did the work, you wouldn't fail. It is not about the teachers hating you S it is about you doing your school work." Sounds to me like she is manipulating grandma like a fiddle.